The biggest area that could have been dealt with better was getting into swinging is about both of you and the way you pressed the issue when she clearly said "NO" several times is probably where she may have got it in her head that she wasn't good enough for you. After this time my wife did mention it and said she'd like to go on a regular basis and she was enjoying it. If any of us is not OK with something it should be talked about as soon as possible. Let us know how you are doing? They will also hopefully be understanding of any last-minute nerves you two might have. There are so many different levels of swinging that even people who've been in the lifestyle for decades can't keep track.
Let us know how you are doing?
My Wife Has Changed After Swinging
I made it clear that I wanted to see her pleased by another man. A few months went by and i asked her again and she said no, and several other times she said no. Well, that means something more when you consider that swinging is something we just do for fun every now and then. But in this case, I fail to see how any compromise can be reached. She's got ivory skin along with the long blonde hair that she puts up into a tight pony tail like a fountain. It sounds like you are in a situation of either accept it or walk away, it doesn't sound like she is willing to change back.